Girl meets world addresses Cultural appropriation
this is actually embarassingly wrong, though. sure, she looks tacky but this is a purely white liberal construct we’re looking at here. generally speaking, people in contemporary japan aren’t going to see something like that as misappropriation, and it hardly makes sense to even try to look at it that way because harajuku is, you know, a shopping district that sells mass produced clothing. maybe this girl is doing something else noxious in the episode, but what’s presented here just isn’t that.
there is of course a line in the sand, and in this case in specific it’s basically between nicki minaj and gwen stefani. nicki was, and maybe still does, calling herself harajuku barbie because she’s drawn a lot of inspiration for her looks from the bright, colourful styles of the district. a district in a wealthy industrialized nation. there’s no real difference between that and calling herself rodeo drive barbie or camden square barbie. gwen stefani, you know, was paying asian women to follow her around like ornaments. that’s a problem.
i get kind of suspicious when people, especially in mainstream tv, overwhelmingly go after “weaboos” as soft targets because it seems like a smokescreen to avoid going after the actually deeply troublesome and normalized acts of commodifying and trivializing marginalized groups.
also, a teacher dragging a teenage girl that hard in front of her entire class is fucked up.
WTF, saying white people can’t wear “Harajuku” fashion is the same as saying only people from London can wear punk or only people from Hawaii can wear board shorts.
If she was wearing a bad kimono and shitty “geisha” face paint THAT would be cultural appropriation. Modern street style is not some kind of cultural tradition!
it ok to not be ready
Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready.
i wish someone had told me this kind of stuff when i was younger… ಠ_ಠ
I REALLY REALLY WANT TO POINT OUT that this person’s partner first stopped & checked in when they saw physical discomfort, not when they heard verbal discouragement. This is so so important: a good partner will be paying attention to how you’re responding and they should factor that in! “Well, you didn’t say anything” is a SHITTY NO-GOOD EXCUSE. It’s ok not to be ready and it’s ok to back out but it’s so important to pay attention to each other!
Also, if you are having sex with someone and you put out those “I’m not into this and I wanna stop” signals, and they ignore them, I highly recommend you rethink having sex with them ever again. Also just generally being around them. Because when a sexual partner sees your discomfort and doesn’t check in, they are selfish at best and dangerous at worst.
I need to say, since no one has said it so far in this particular thread of commentary: Saying “I’m sorry” is okay, but please be aware that it’s a part of internalized oppression that tells us that if we’re not sexually available to a person, then we must have wronged them. This is not true. Anyone can withdraw consent at any point and you don’t have to apologize for it because it is absolutely your right.